He did eventually have an outburst which was difficult to see because you could see how anxious it made him. Having the outburst allowed him to release the anger and frustration he felt about moving and leaving the family he had been staying with. Once he had the outburst he became much happier and was able to start moving on.
When children in care come to stay with you, you will be aware of their past and some of the things they have experienced might be hard to hear but I find what’s important, when I’m presented with information that I might find difficult, is to remind myself that “it’s not going to happen again”; our family motto is that “nobody hurts anybody”.
What I think is important to the little boy we are fostering at the moment is that we are a forever family and we all stick together. Our very own favourite thing that’s ours is at that at night when he goes to bed, I’ll give him a hug and tell him that I love him and I’ll always remind him that if we’ve had a bad day today we will have a better day tomorrow and that moment is ours.
One of my favourite things about being a foster carer is seeing the child you are looking after blossom. Seeing him developing into a confident boy right in front of your eyes.
I feel there is always room in a family for someone else and knowing that you are making a difference makes me really pleased and want to continue fostering.
My tip for anyone new to fostering is, don’t take life too seriously. Pick your battles and learn to laugh a lot because if you don’t laugh about it, then you have taken it too seriously and you won’t get through the next day.
To anyone considering fostering but unsure if it’s for them, I would advise them to start with respite care and see if fostering is for them.”